Early in I really thought I could save the marriage even if he wasn’t giving any effort. It took me a while to realise that it’s not possible. It really does need two people to want to work and want to save it. So I just shifted the focus from “saving the marriage” to “saving myself”. I think that’s all we can do until they ever decide to come through their headspace and actually share our values and our attitude
Yep, they have to buy in eventually. If they don't, well...we led them to water, and if they would rather go thirsty, not our problem.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
