Way Less Lost!! Pt 4

[Sunflyer]

I am not the one who gave up and ran away he was( and deep down he knows it). Forever he will live with the knowledge that I was prepared to throw 100% into fixing issues and working through our bad patch and he was prepared to give 0% and run away. To me, that’s a win for me as a human and as a person with values. Our R is nowhere near as bad as he has twisted it in his head to be and I know that.

Yep, keep repeating this to yourself. I certainly am. Because you are right and you know it.

I know I've said this before, but while I am not dealing with a drinking, video game playing spouse who's fleeing to another country, I have read most of your story and whenever you start describing your H and wondering how the heck his values took such a left turn from where they were, I nod my head because that's exactly what I saw happen to W. Not sure it's a midlife crisis, but she's definitely suffered some kind of crisis of conscience, so to speak.