Way Less Lost!! Pt 4

[Pattnee5]

Sweeping things under the rug is a killer. Avoidance. One simple thing that can destroy so so much. My H swept everything under the rug, it’s bubbled below his surface for goodness knows how long and now exploded and destroyed everything. Yet he still sweeps things under the rug, refusing help, refusing to deal with issues etc. It won’t be good for these spouses. Their lives won’t be full of happiness and free of any guilt or remorse or pain.

I have an uphill battle right now with H and he still keeps avoiding. He still hasn’t sat the kids down to tell him about his move overseas which is apparently happening in November. I always get vague excuses like “the visa hasn’t come through” the pay rate isn’t confirmed etc.
It’s very frustrating. I told him very firmly to tell them during the school break they have had the last two weeks so they are home and have time to process, my dad even told him he needs to tell them. Yet still nothing. He’s just buried his head in the sand. I have often thought about telling them but it’s not my job to hurt them. He is the one doing this he needs to be the one to break their hearts and see the look of their pain and shock in their eyes every time he closes his own eyes. I’ll be there to support just the kids when he tells them. And to make sure he doesn’t twist any story and make out as if I agree with any of this. Just more “sweeping under the rug” behaviour.
Yet again typical signs of a MLC man regressing to the brain of a 17 year old teenager. They really need to man up and deal with their issues