Second roller coaster ride (part 3)

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I think it would be interesting (helpful) if you were to make an acceptance/recovery chart as well. The level of acceptance or internal okey-dokey-ness for events in you life.

I've had this exact thought. Adding a column and tracking "percent processed". Many are 100 or at least 99. For example, I don't think I'll ever be at 100 with Granny or my dad, but 99 is a pretty comfortable spot.

There are some, like friends moving away, that I knew I hadn't gotten over. I even had a conversation with my cousin about this a month ago. I'm going to use strategies from my grief class to hopefully work on moving past those, too. And I'll be able to use those going forward as I'm sure I'll never have the same group of friends living around me for my entire life.

Of course, the veggie peeler was not suppose to be missing. Its removal was not an agreed upon item. Yet another thing W has taken, has lied about, has betrayed you about. See how the event triggers the associated feelings of the bigger betrayal. Perfectly normal and healthy. Keep “moving forward”.

Once the moment passes, you’ll shrug and go get yourself another veggie peeler.

Already done. You're absolutely right. It triggered me because it was another betrayal. A very small one, but just opened up the entire wound again as I have not healed yet. Working on it.

And thanks for the feedback on my texts. I feel like I'm making progress. But I need to know when to make statements instead of questions. I just texted: "I don't want to store the armoire, I have plans for the living room. Please find a home for it by next Friday."

It felt uncomfortable texting it, which I think is a good thing in this case. I'm curious to see her reaction.

Thank you as always for your support. I'm having a pretty decent day today.