Rock, Your very first post you explain she moved out, on your 3rd or 4th your make sure everyone again knows she did. Later you mention multiple times she wants to move back in to save money. If you went back and forth with us, you did with her, but ok.
You've been to 3 lawyers than Rock without paying. Weak
You've had to examine what you can do differently throughout this entire process. It's a sentence you use to get out of uncomfortable situations, and you've used it or something similar numerous times.
The following is from you on 09/15/22
Contributions to breakdown: -not giving her the attention romance and excitement she craved at times for sure -she felt that I placed too much focus and attention on our kids and their needs at the expense of her -contributing to chaos and disorder with falling behind renovating our house and being disorganized -my traumatic injury ( with depression and anxiety) impacting on my wife and our intimacy -our collective emotional wounds and pain from familial trauma -me not standing up to her when she mistreated me verbally and with disrespect at times.
Continuing on 180s: -looking after myself focusing on me -standing up to her calmly and assertively -not attending to my physical appearance at times -I got disconnected from work, friends, hobbies -not talking about me or overly focusing on our kids when we are in conversation but showing care and interest in her life and perspective when she opens up to me especially about hurts and contributions -lots of validation -engaging in my treatment and following up,with my dr for preventative tests and measures -getting help from friends with house Reno skills - I’m still doing a lot of the work and learning -being responsible financially for myself -looking and dressing well, GAL, being happy and having friends
What is different today than the day you posted this?
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
