DnJ, thank you for the wisdom. It does help to understand what I'm going through. The grief recovery class has been very educational. The real work (recovery) in the class started last week and ramps up even more this week. We are making "loss charts" for all of the big losses in our lives. It can even include things like birth of a child (you lose independence and your "old" life). So far I have 30 loss events on my chart. You also visualize the significance of each loss by the length of the line underlining the description. Bigger the loss, longer the line. It's chronological, starting from birth. So at a quick glance, you can see when the biggest losses in your life were.

I do think this is really going to help getting this on paper. And supposedly it is very emotional to vocalize it. We will be sharing the chart within small groups in our class. Looking forward to Thursday.


Me 38, WAW 30
D11 (former marriage)
S2
T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23