Hi Joseph I value your direct and blunt thoughts and I don’t take it to try to run me down. I get it and accept that the old marriage is over. I told her so a year ago.
“ Over the last 15 months what have you done to make her think maybe you're different? More attractive? More of the man she would want? To want to marry you all over again?”
Biggest change is I have been standing up to her and not getting baited into her traps. I have let her make her own path and experience consequences. I have been standing up to her. I have not been pursuing or pressuring her. I have been taking care of my health like I used to when we first met and married. I have new friends. I have been stepping up for our kids and graddaughter.
Have I been doing this well? Am I having any influence on her good or bad? I don’t know. I just don’t know. At this stage she has given me zero reason to believe that she wants anything now or ever to do with our M.
I don’t want this and I don’t want the old M.
“ Lastly, get ready. Money brings out the worst in people. Accept you need a lawyer now. You can not worry about her. You worry about you and your children that need you. I'm not saying lose your morals, but don't accept less than what you are entitled to. Let your lawyer handle the divorce, ask them questions, and let them know exactly what you want. EDit***I'm not saying you have to file for divorce, but don't be surprised if this triggers her to do so, but either way you need a lawyer, and one that knows everything that is going on and is ready to take action immediately with all the relevant information***”
I see that I need a L for my sake and my kids who need me.
