So sorry to read of the situation you are in. And it is very difficult to deal with when they are still at home.
The drinking behavior is very common for Male MLC'ers. My EXH is 4 years in and still drinking heavily too.
Originally Posted by Love4Him
It blows my mind every day thinking about it, how they go to such great lengths to protect themselves from casting blame onto themselves for what they are going through. It is beyond sad to see it when all they have to do is take a good hard look inside.
He's running like the rest of our men/women going through this. Running and not looking back. That inner pain must be so horrendous, more than us LBS's could ever imagine. If they could just bring themselves to stop and think for a bit to look at this from a rational point of view. Go to therapy, really dig into themselves and emerge a new person, fight those inner demons and cast them out. But that would be too hard... too painful, too much to bear.... so they take the easy way out, blame everyone else, mainly us, and leave us in the dust, beaten down and bleeding. And they just walk on... This thing has Satan written all over it.
They are no longer serving God, it's the other guy for now.
And that's the thing..they can't and won't look inside, not until they decide for themselves to do something about it. And some of them never do. If you read my story my EXH took steps but to everytime fall back again into his MLC habits. Also much to do with the terrible decisions they make whilst in MLC. I truly hope this won't be the case for your H, otherwise it will be even more difficult to fight them.
Good of you to filter all your emotions here. This forum was a life saver for me and I learned here to really move forward with my life and my wonderful kids.
