It feels like this is going to be a test for me. I can already feel the pull of needing to look after him.
H showed up to the house like you suspected he would. And, in my opinion, you passed the test with flying colors.
How long is his divorce proposal official? When does it expire? That gives you the window on this current business matter. Just so you know, you do not have to rush anything.
Do you need or want financial security and protection? Is his proposal fair? Have you had a lawyer look it over? Perhaps you would want to counter propose a different/modified settlement? Just some thoughts/queries for you or consider. It is a big decision.
H is all of the place. No doubt there.
You know he has self work to do. You nicely supported and suggested that to him, while maintaining your position.
Do you see, can you see, the possibilities? Some period of time, H does inner work, never sees OW, gets his life back on track. Can you accept him? Can you forgive him? Could you see him? By the way, these things are not all tied together. You find acceptance and/or forgiveness regardless of what H does or doesn’t do.
It’s interesting, the answers from life’s big questions, come from within. Your answers are based upon you, not H. Difficult answers become easier as we become. There can be no testament without test.
How was the holiday? Did you and daughter have a good time?
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
