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[JosephS]

Rock, I've gone over every post you've made since you've been here and it took a very long time. Here are things I've learned. The dates will be the date you posted it.

You were in therapy as of 09/15/22
Your wife moved out over a year ago (09/16/22)
You knew your wife was having an affair (10/06/22)
There isn't enough time to go over every post where you were told to stop reach out so much or communicating, yet you either ignored every poster or said you had to because of your special needs son. Yet 95% of your communication wasn't about him.
Your special needs son lives in a specialized mental health facility (11/19/22)
You talked to a lawyer about protecting yourself (10/27/22)
Your wife has already admitted she's trying to be friends (10/29/22)
Went to a lawyer and found out you don't have to pay more than 50% of mortgage since you make more (11/11/22)--BTW this contradicts some very recent posts....also said you spoke to a lawyer on (12/09/22)
You were getting ready to return to work (12/09/22)
Talked to a lawyer again, expected to contribute 50/50 since you are separated (12/20/22)
Gearing up to go back to work (12/21/22)
Finished mens health program (12/21/22)
Mentioned you know wife is entitled to spousal support (01/02/23)
Claimed your therapist said it was ok to do family activities with wife (02/11/23)
Wife had here 3rd visit with OM and you found out after she accidentally sent pictures to you of the plane tickets (02/16/23)
Went on another family get together after the tickets (02/24/23)
You thought here was OM2 (02/25/23)
You talked about you and your wife being a team (03/13/23)
You where accused of stalking her (03/19/23)
Claimed NC isn't possible (03/22/23)
Claimed you wanted to talk to your wife about you wanting a divorce (03/29/23)
You claimed you aren't ignore advice (04/28/23)
You and your wife came into an unexpected sum of money (05/03/23)
Wanted to know what to do for her on mothers day (05/07/23)
Said you want to go to a lawyer to protect yourself (07/17/23)
Admits wife is seeing OM for a month (07/18/23)--at least we knew why you wanted a divorce
Talked to financial planner (07/19/23)
Says wife wants to tell the community about you being separated, because you're kind of a big deal in the in community---which to me is very weird considering you'd been separated for about a year here.
Daughter who's in college has special needs (07/25/23)
Meeting with lawyer and financial adviser (07/28/23)



This does not count the amount of posts and questions you ignored. It doesn't count that you were given excellent advice by many posters that, well if you didn't agree with them they were disregarded. You asked about Christmas and were told not to go or give presents. You did it anyway and than turned around wondering what to do with mothers day.

You have been in therapy this entire time, but I can only find 1 or 2 posts that talk about what your goals in therapy have been, or how we are contradicting them.

You're still here because you haven't listened to advice, almost ever. You are stuck because we say what you don't want to hear, and your actions speak to that, I don't need to read whatever excuse you'll come up with.

In the year you've been here, I'm not sure I even saw a step forward. You sending an email about child support? How's that gonna work out when she doesn't send it? How are you gonna handle it when she says screw it and files? How does she owe you child support when for the duration of your posts, except for the last month, you made more money than her?

This right here is why I'm not even sure anymore if you are a real poster, or just what.

I'll just say this..if you have been on the level this whole time, my god I'm so sorry you'll never get this time back. As someone on the other side, it's sad to know exactly what you are missing out on.