W said that she sees our home like a rental property and that if I can’t pay to live there I should find another place to live. She said she doesn’t live there and she never will. She said she thinks we should sell it. She told me that she doesn’t have any extra money and no health benefits left. She told me that she has lots of counseling coming up to pay for. I actively listened. I reflected back what I heard, validated the emotions he showed and told her I will consider what she has said. I excused myself saying I needed to go.
So when you were actively listening what did you hear? She doesn't want the house anymore. She is telling she has no money to contribute to the house. She is telling you that if you can't pay for it yourself you need to sell it. So now your plan is to go to her and tell her she owes x amount for the house? How do you think that is going to go over?
First you need to figure out if you can afford the house. Then you need to put a plan in place to buy her out. Then you can have your lawyer contact hers in regards to alimony and child support moving forward.
