Learned a lesson with in-laws. A week ago, I sent a video of S1 to FIL and SIL. It was a harmless 10 second video. I was sharing it with a few friends and fam, and just included them without thinking too much about it. Thought they'd enjoy a quick funny vid. FIL apparently shared it with the whole fam, including W. MIL, who has been drinking daily lately, apparently, left me a drunk VM telling me I shouldn't talk to FIL.
I talked to FIL last night. I called to make sure his other kids knew about their grandma passing before I sent condolences to them. That's how I found out he sent the video elsewhere. I'm just going to go no-contact from now on, especially since W will have S1 1/2 of the time now. She can send them videos if she wants. I sent it because they hadn't seen S1 in a month since I'd had him essentially the whole time. Their situation is too toxic to involve myself in right now.
So, you vets were right.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23