Way Less Lost!! Pt 4

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I know it hurts that he is officially abandoning you all and leaving for the US. You can't ignore that hurt, but based on how far you've come, I know you will work through those emotions. And I do see some silver linings for you. You won't be strung along (will he go? will he stay?). You won't have to be subjected to his emotional outbursts or just depressing state of affairs. And it might expedite his fall to rock bottom. I'm sure vets have told you that you shouldn't be just sitting, hoping and waiting for him to hit that and bounce back to you all, because who knows if that will happen. But him getting completely on his own might help get him to that decision point. "Do I try to help myself, or is this my life from now on?"

Also, I don't know what his impression of America is, how much he's been here, etc. It's not utopia here haha. America, itself, is not going to solve his issues.

Do you think he lashes out at you to get a reaction? Or is that just how he feels and he can't contain it? If you think it's manipulative or abusive, check out the grey rock method, if you haven't heard of it before. I just learned about it when I went down the "how to handle a narcissist" rabbit hole.