Way Less Lost!! Pt 4

[Card29]

That makes a lot of sense. Until we are fully detached or "over" the situation, any movement towards what we don't want can really hit us emotionally. I've had a couple of triggers the last couple of days after a couple of weeks of peace. So I feel for you.

This "excursion" of your H's, how serious is he about it? Does he have a timeline, starting date etc? Judging from what you've said about him, wallowing in his hole, it wouldn't surprise me if he strung this idea along for weeks/months. If you think it might drag on, it's worth making a plan or at least being aware of the pitfalls. Your emotional reaction is normal, but I'm sure you don't want to keep feeling it to the extent you have this past weekend.

Obviously, the primary goal is working on detaching from the idea emotionally. Until you can get there, maybe you need a mental game plan for when he brings up the idea again. How are you feeling now, and have you done or thought of anything that has helped your emotions regarding his overseas job? If you have, I'd write them down so you remember next time it comes up. I'm copying that advice from one of the vets on my thread last week.