More of Never split the difference:

Seeking to attune with another person’s emotional state can provide useful information about what is important to them and what their concerns might be. Author Voss says most people have two basic emotional needs: to feel secure and to feel in control.

What are their real desires?

What do they fear losing the most?

How can I show them that my preferred outcome will lead to their preferred outcome?

His 5 main tactics to achieve this:

Listen actively

Use the right tone

Reflect back

Label

Anticipate accusations


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