I have an update and I need some further help. Yesterday, I came across a function on my Phone Carrier app and found the Call usage from H’s phone. It has verified his EA with EW. There have been calls nearly everyday since before I started DBing and rang XW to talk to her. Some of these calls have been late at night and go for over an hour and certainly when I’m not there. H is still telling me he doesn’t talk to hardly anyone (even though I don’t bring it up) and he hasn’t mentioned XW at all. Since I have been DBing, the calls have lessened. There are still lots and the calls that I’m seeing are only the calls H is making to XW, not any from her. I have now ordered itemised calls for the last 12 months from our Phone carrier so I can collect evidence and verify what I’ve been suspecting for a long time to get some closure.
What do I do now with all this evidence? What now? Do I expose all of this?
I tried so hard last night to back away quietly while still being myself but H knew something was wrong and kept asking. He accused me of having an affair. He left today picking a fight and swearing at me because I didn’t want to be intimate and because I had shut down somewhat last night. I didn’t argue back and just let him go back to his place.
I’m relieved but devastated. I just knew it. I knew all of it and it’s great to finally know. I’m extremely sad. That part has finally come to an end, I don’t have to wonder anymore.
I’m sad because H has continued to lie to me since probably we were married, gaslighted me, picked fights and has XW that he is confiding in and supporting emotionally. WTF… not coping very well at the moment.
Kanga
Me 49 H 61 T 8yrs M 1.5yrs LAT H filed for D from XW ‘18, granted ‘19 We M ‘22 H in EA with XW (lying about contact, evidence of Affair contact) BD Aug ‘23
