back again.... looking for advice

[Jim1234]

It may be salvageable from your point of view however it takes two people to make a relationship work.
If both people are not 100% into their half - then its not going to work.

So is this the case?

Well, that's really the question. I am happy to find some middle ground, and step up my game, but she's "not willing to lower her bar." I'm not sure I can step up enough to meet her bar when I dont intrinsically care about some of these things. We have an appointment with a therapist this week to see if there is some compromise we just don't see.