Hi Pat, I'm not on here so much but I've kinda been following your thread and others. Look how far you've come, doing great! You are very courageous, I must say I'm not at a point where I can sit H down and talk divorce or even separation. Not yet. But I see that that route may be just what the MLCer needs to help him wake up to reality, what he's done, what he's losing. It's a long road to get there and some of them never do. That's why it is so important for us LBS's to move forward without them and not get stuck in their mud puddle. They so desperately want change, thinking getting away from their old life will somehow make them feel better. Ha! Not true, WE know that it won't but THEY need to find out for themselves. So the best thing is to let them go, let them be free to choose, free to live the life they think they want.
What better way for your H to do just that by going so far away. So he's coming my way, huh? Lol. My guess is he won't stay for 2 years, and he won't find what he's looking for because the answers are not out there, they are within him. But, like you already know, he needs to figure that out all by himself. He's off to a great start though.
In the meantime, you and your kiddos are going to build something great, you've already started so keep going. The amazing thing here is that we FIND OURSELVES in all of this, find strengths we never thought we had, find new passions, new horizons that we never would have, had this not ever happened. Hey, I am not only talking to you here, I'm also coaching myself, lol. I still need to hear this too. I'm still on this emotional rollercoaster myself but the ride isn't so wild anymore. I'm not screaming like a mad woman!
Concentrate on you and your kids now like you have been, become your best self, their best Mom. You are awesome and you deserve the best life has to offer! ((HUGS))
