It’s when you are afraid, a peacekeeper and allow your spouse to live a double life.
For example, it happens when someone is in an active affair, but the LBS is so desperate to save the marriage they are happy to get along and be best friends with their ex in the hope that their staying power will be valued and lead to reconciliation.
You can’t be best friends with your ex.
Imagine a scenario where they are free to blow up a marriage or have an affair or have sleepovers with someone else, and yet have the security that they can come and go as they please or keep living under the same roof as friends. It essentially gives them a golden ticket to continue their affair/MLC/madness while having all the benefits of a husband/wife to pick up the pieces and fall back to if it all turns to mess.
It’s important not to end up in the friend zone. You need to make it clear during your divorce that you’re happy to try and reconcile, but that if you don’t, you’ll be going your own separate ways.
Friend zone is a bad place to be in. Many end up there because they’re too afraid to enforce reasonable boundaries or set a reasonable standard on how they wish to be treated.
