It sounds to me like you did a great job, although as you know I'm still learning. I agree our situations feel very similar. Don't be misled though, when I say H is trying to come home. He's a crazy mess and nowhere near ready. It's every time they break up, which this is the 6th or 7th time (I lose count). Its all words and no action! It's typical of his dependent manchild behaviour. I've gained so much respect for myself during the whole DBing experience that I genuinely couldn't even contemplate him how he is currently. That being said, I'm trying to be kind, hear him (not face to face & not continually), validate his feelings but remain within my own boundaries. Like you say, this community has been a life saver.
