Thanks again. I'm not sure what to do for me to be honest! I don't feel like the marriage compromised either of us - we both have our own hobbies and carried on doing them. No kids means things are less complicated. We had a hobby together too - ballroom dancing, which we'd taken back up after the covid break and seemed to be enjoying. He's had a lot of things happen over the past year or so that haven't happened to me - his mum had a severe health scare, he was in a really nasty car accident that wasn't his fault but the person who drove out in front of him was in a coma for six weeks. He has also had a meteoric rise through the company he joined just over a year ago - from bottom of the heap to second in command of the company. He doesn't cope with stress very well but never got around to arranging counselling after the car accident even though he knew he needed it. I'm hoping that this running away is a symptom of that and that the counselling he's getting now will sort him back out, that's why I'm so keen to know that he's going back to counselling! I can't imagine that he's not but my imagination is all I have. We didn't argue before he decided to leave - something just seems to have gone pop in his mind and rather than talk to me he started looking for somewhere else to live. I only got to know because I asked a random question one night, just making conversation, and he couldn't lie about his answer. We've not had a chance to discuss any of it really. My friends have variously suggested that he's having a mid-life crisis, male menopause, depression, PTSD, feeling like I was too much in control (I do all the money stuff and have always earned more) and I wonder if it's a mix of all those things. Unfortunately I know that even if the counselling gets him to a better place he might still not want to come back - when I believe that we'll get a chance to work on the marriage I feel fine but when I think about how he might not be willing to do that it's like falling off a cliff.
