New on here, struggling!

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I forgot to add my story. I was divorced 9 years ago. I DB’d. I was a slow learner. I begged, pleaded, cried. Off and on for weeks, months. But eventually it clicked for me. I found peace, I found happiness, and I found myself. I had a new energy on life. The GAL (get a life) activities had taken off and I’d made legitimate new friends. I was finally over W.

Fast forward to a year after our separation and divorce. I had met somebody. It was just fun, nothing too serious yet. W came clean about the separation, that she’d had an affair (I already knew). And a couple weeks later, she asked if I wanted to try again. I said no. I felt confident in my decision and have never regretted it. But DB did at least work to the point of giving me the option to try, and it gave me the clear head to make the best decision for myself.

I’m DBing again. I again dont want a D right now, but my current goal is to detach. That’s when you get the power back in your life. And it’s the best chance you have with your marriage.