A year on and standing 2

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5 Years I stood.

Well I made the choice. Got off the forum for a while to live my life, changed a new job and try to focus on the dynamics of me and my children only, tell myself that as long as she did not cross my line (Being involved with another person), I just see where it takes us and she can go YOLO and enjoy her freedom and space.

She treats me the same. Seeing me like enemy, once in a while speaking about divorce and pushing the papers to me. Though I told her to attention it to my lawyer, she never did because her family stepped in and stopped it when she mentioned about divorce.

Inside me, I was holding to the hope that she would come to, or the effect of this wayward or what will wear off like after 5-6 years (the magic number I gave to myself because that's what I read online being the longest period for someone to come to or never)

But well, I was wrong to tend to believe and reality points me to really the outcome I have to face. For this 5 years, she is still with the person she claimed to have EA with 5 years ago. Why did I know?

She tried to introduced him to our kids again, albeit with the guy using a different name this time. Thinking that the kids would forgot about it. The guy sending her back home when I was outstation, and informed to me by my neighbors. At first I was wondering who this guy is, coming into our family life and seemingly trying to take up the presence of the father to my kids. Because when she brought the kids out, she would not allow me to tag along but would always try to invite this guy here.

Upon the kids and neighbor's description of his features, I shared a old group photo and immediately, they pointed him out.

I am piecing myself together now to take action. I am also contemplating of getting a private investigator for evidence first before any actions in order to better my chances of having full care and control for the children. I do not mind sharing the custody of children, but I would want to be the primary care giver to the children, though the law from where I am gives preference to women.

However, the Private investigation fee gonna cost. I am not sure If I would want to jump to the proceeding straight, or gather evidence first to strip her lying mask. The kids are older now and they themselves realize what is happening and they wanted to follow me than her. And right now, she is trying to kinda bribe the kids by buying them expensive gifts and such, claiming that I brainwashed them etc (the kids told me that).

It's tough and I think it's gonna get tougher. But this can no longer go on, and it's affecting my focus at work and with tasks. I got to put an end to it in order for us to live our lives. It's really shameless of her to introduce the guy to the children as what she did years ago. Kids are now also very disappointed with her and having strong resentment towards the guy.

Now as I am considering on the options of the investigations, I am also reaching out to my lawyers to set the plans for next actions.

Returning here for support in this journey....