Interesting question and thank you for replying. I’m not actually sure what I’m expecting to happen! I will give this some thought. Not only am I to believe none of the hurtful, nasty stuff H says, but also the nice stuff? Would someone or you clarify? H tells me he loves me, he’s never been happier… he’s very tactile. At the same time he is lying to my face! It’s so confusing.
I realise too that saying grey, I meant going dark. I am trying to do this and then being upbeat and attentive when I do have contact that I’m not (for the most part) initiating.
H just tries to keep picking fights with me at the moment. I just got off the phone to him wanting to talk about his problems. He harkened back to a time in his life where he was rich and successful in a different country with XW and how it was the best time of his life. I’m not even going to try and figure this out. He is disrespecting me and casting me aside as his wife because he is not ‘happy’.
Anyhow… I want to GAL, but I’m exhausted from work stuff and I haven’t been that well in the last 5 days and not once has H asked how I was feeling. Pretty sad. Just a thought, I went back to doing 180’s just in the last few days and he has being treating me worse. So maybe something is working.
Me 49 H 61 T 8yrs M 1.5yrs LAT H filed for D from XW ‘18, granted ‘19 We M ‘22 H in EA with XW (lying about contact, evidence of Affair contact) BD Aug ‘23
