Way Less Lost!! Pt 4

[Pattnee5]

Thanks D
Makes sense and understand it will take a fair bit of discussion. Which we have only really done when H has had a meltdown moment and thrown stuff at me

I just think it’s time to rip the Band-Aid off legalise the separation and financial situation and current living situation so that I can continue to move forward. The current situation of him coming and going as he pleases being a part time dad, making comments about “it’s till my house and my money” etc and just just the coming and going with the gaming and drinking is no longer something I enjoy. He brings alcohol in when I’m not there and not respecting my boundaries anymore.
I want my space my own place and home, an arrangement whereby he has set days with the kids. At the moment it’s a very skewed version of being separated whereby it’s more coexisting, him living how he wants by his rules, still not feeling the effects of anything because he still sees kids when he wants, has contact with me despite me clearing out as much as possible

I am just ready to move away from this current situation which I don’t like, d14 doesn’t like and has made many comments about too