Second roller coaster ride (2)

[Sunflyer]

I hung out with my best friend and another at my house tonight. W told him so many lies last night. “It was everything I could do to get him to help with S1”. lmao she went to EU for 5 weeks, and I did the entire nighttime routine 95% of the time. I’m not going to say anything to her as it’s pointless, plus my friend asked me not to. I know she’s validating her decision and trying to paint herself in the best light possible. Still shocking to hear.

My W pulled this same BS.

I have been a very hands-on father. With our first son, she openly praised my parenting to my mother.

Now her story is:

"I feel like a single parent."

"I do everything."

She conveniently forgot the hundreds of diapers I changed, the vomit I cleaned up, the many trips to the park and movies when she had to work (or just to give her a break), the fact that I was the one to keep tabs on the boys while she was out handling her two jobs, or the track meets she missed for the same reason.

She also likes to play armchair psychologist and has sold the narrative to her family that my "faults" as a parent are because I was never that close to my father.

She has no idea was growing up in my family was like, that my parents never spoke unless being openly hostile with each other, that my mother actually sued my father over providing insufficient child support, etc.

There is no comparison between the dynamic I have with my boys and the one that existed in the family I grew up in. None.

Yes, it will hurt to hear these things from her. But ultimately, all that will matter is the love you will earn from your son. And you will earn that.