Bit of an update & a gentle request for guidance please.
H continues to present in a very chaotic manner. I think the relationship with OW is over by how he is but I can't confirm this (not that it matters). My current stance is that he is not who I married, he appears to be in the throes of MLC & there is zero evidence of behaviour change or attempts to work on himself. In view of this, I want to maintain my current boundaries of no contact unless pre arranged. I do not want to have friendly chat or give him false hope but equally I don't want to be cruel. So my dilemma is how I do this?
I've been on holiday in Europe this week and I blocked him on social media and phone before I went. Despite this, he has activated an old account & managed to get in touch. I've ignored all messages and not replied. He has also messaged both kids several times a day. These messages have consisted of old photos of us as a family with love hearts attached or a loving comment. He also sent a photo of us last christmas commenting I miss my wife, I miss my family I miss my children. I want us all back together. The next photo was one of him putting his wedding ring back on. I'm really not sure how to respond to all of this. As I say, so far Ive just ignored it but I know he's going to turn up at the house as soon as we're back. I dont want to give him false hope but we are worlds apart in terms of reconciling. I'm not saying this will never happen but certainly at the present time, I don't want reconciliation. I am happier and my life is more meaningful alone & at yhe present time, I do not find him or his behavioirs remotely attractive.
