Second roller coaster ride (2)

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I know this probably makes you feel better… but seeking out validation from her family is not a good idea. If that becomes your source of grounding and support and validation, if it eventually disappears, you’ll feel all alone.

And be careful. He might be saying the right things atm because he’s in shock and perhaps he thinks he can change her trajectory… but once he figures out he can’t, then your support will disappear pretty quickly. Blood is ALWAYS thicker than water in the end.

Thank you. I do know that will be true. It was nice to hear it once or twice, but I know how this goes. Same thing with my XW. "Omg she's lost her mind!" In the end they have absolutely no control over the situation whether she's talking to them or not. If anything they could make it worse. And eventually they will reach that conclusion. I am not making them my pillar of support and don't plan on regular calls. That's where I'm leaning on friends and family.

After my grief recovery session (Week 1 of 8), I had dinner with a couple of friends I have not hung out with since this went down. They were very supportive. Just before dinner is when it hit me that this is likely an EA, so I couldn't help but the conversation going there.