Hi all, small update from my side. After ultimatum, my wife decided to dump OM and go back to the marriage + she said she is going to put an effort into it. She deleted all the content (texts, his phone number, pics, etc), from the cell phone and swore she is not in touch with him anymore. She even sent him a sms in front of me, that she does not want to be in touch with him anymore under any circumstances. She said I can check her cell phone any time/day/hour if I want and she has no problem with that. Well it turned out that OM is really a jerk. I do not know if my W came back because she had no perspective with him nor money or because of kids but the reality is she decided to be in a marriage but she asked for some time for her to emotionally "switch back" and also that I should not push on her. For her it is like we are just started dating again. She also wants to work on re-building trust. We had a discussion about the reasons or in other words what led her to fall for OM. What she was missing in our M etc..It is not an excuse for her cheating, she knows that but we must identify was she was lacking so we can work on that and never ever experience the same situation. I told her that if she is going to cheat again I will divorce her. I am ready to forgive her but it is impossible to forget. I must learn to live with this scar. At the moment I am still doing GAL (and will carry on) and once she is emotionally ready we can move forward.
