Have separate counsel regardless. Your lawyer will ensure your interests.
All you need do is let your L look over things sent from W, and respond accordingly, and respond through your L. Just respond, leave the heavy lifting to W. If she’s after a blistering fast pace she can do the work for it. You don’t block her, yet you don’t pave her road either.
And don’t feel pushed to accept anything she proposes. You can reject or negotiate better, especially if she’s eager. Ensure you get a fair deal. Know the best, worse, and likely outcomes, and go from there.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.