Ok as I’m starting to write this post I’m thinking ahead to DB which I know to be continue to GAL and remain focused on my principles, values and goals.
Youngest D is in the process of moving out into a great place. I’m excited for her and have been communicating my belief in her and that I see this as a great step for her. Us men (S’s and I) are taking her out to dinner tonight to celebrate this milestone for her.
W has been connecting more herself with youngest S and D without me making it happen and she has been providing support to D with her move, helping her with some packing etc.
Yesterday W tried to call me and then texted asking me to call her. I did. She wanted to talk to me about her conversation with eldest D - she had just talked with her on the phone. They have been very disconnected and W hadn’t talked with her since before her trip. She said it was a very difficult conversation and and that D was rude to her and W ended up hanging up. W also voiced to me a lot of other stress: her lack of R with eldest S, W says she has no friends, she hates her job, land there’s a lot of tension/animosity in her family. She showed a lot of distressing emotion with tears on the call. I validated her emotional state gently and expressed that I see that she is going though a lot of really hard things. And I didn’t try to fix anything for her.
It was a big call and it’s hard for me even to type it out. There was a lot to it. As I was saying I needed to go, youngest S knocked on my door. I came out still on the phone. W and S said hi. S and I planned to go for an outing. S invited W to join.
S and I went to a recreation spot and W and her mom met us there after S and I had played for a while. We greeted W and MIL. They were both friendly. W seemed fragile. She said she was spent. S and W had some time together. It was fairly brief (20 minutes?) that they were there with us.
W brought up with me in front of her mom an idea of making some together plans (going on a trip together to visit some friends). I said, “Maybe. I’ll have to see.”
