I don’t think there’s more divorce than before. It’s just that when you’re embroiled in the middle of it, you mention it to people, they talk to you about it, and suddenly you notice it’s all around. Divorce rates in free countries have forever hovered around 50%, I don’t necessarily think it’s COVID related.
Personally, I think divorce is mainly related to five things: - unresolved childhood trauma or poor parenting - MLC - pressures of parenting - selfishness - a society where people aren’t taught to take responsibility for their own actions.
Ah yes, I know that city and well and frequently travel there for work. How’s the North Face vest holding up? 🤣
While I like your trainer’s joke about becoming revenge hot, be careful of your motivations. You do things for you because you want them and they make you happy, not to try and manipulate someone back into marriage.
It goes like this: - Pattnee decides to get fit for Pattnee - Pattnee feels better because there’s structure in her life by training every day - Pattnee is much happier because she starts sleeping well again - Pattnee becomes confident in her body and sexiness, so then becomes confident/outgoing/relaxed/fun to be around - Other people find Pattnee attractive
I did spend a bit of time at the other forum about MLC. It has a lot of good information about MLC. But I don’t think it’s the best place to go to save your marriage/yourself. It allows people to externalise blame (ie we got divorced because he had an MLC) which means they don’t do the hard work to fix their side of the fence.
Ultimately, I think DB is better because while it acknowledges MLC, it places the responsibility of change and personal development on the LBS.
