3pm is my cutoff now...2pm might be better. Also, no screen time after a certain time. No screen time in bedroom.
My Med doc gave me a prescription that let me sleep 8 hours straight. I was on them within a week of BD. Best sleep I have ever had in my life. I think I used them for about a month. This might be a good option as well.
Count down by 3's from 100. Repeat as required. Any thoughts come to mind, tell yourself you can deal with that tomorrow afternoon. Look into visualizing "the stop sign" technique.
At the same time you are counting, intentionally relax your face, then your chest, then arms and fingers all the way down to your toes.
Focus on slow deep breaths at the same time.
Originally Posted by DnJ
Validating is difficult with text. A good portion of our emotional communication is stated with our mannerisms and those wee indicators: eye movement, hand placement, arms folded or open, and so on. As example if this was person to person: W, you sound stressed. Or, you appear calm.
YUP, get your non-verbal communication into a great place. Body language, facial expressions, tone, inflections are very important skills to master. Smile with your eyes.
Keep text to business. Follow DBing rules. Only texts that need a response are questions. Answer with the fewest words needed to get your point across. Take your time to respond. 99% of messages are not urgent.
W: Do you know what time it is? H: yes.
W:What time is it? H:1:41pm
W:"I am going to the store and won't be home until late" H:(Crickets)
W:Why didn't you respond to my text? H:"I was busy."
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
