Way Less Lost!! Pt 4

[DnJ]

Good Morning Patt

Can I also just say there needs to be wayyyyy more exposure around MLC in this world. I always thought it was a Hollywood gimmick.

I also agree about MLC, I thought it just meant you bought a sports car or something. And maybe that is for some people, others it's something much more painful.

I agree. Before BD, I had the typical “Hollywood” view of a midlife crisis: guy buy a sports car, and so on. I had no idea of the truth of a crisis, until XW was consumed by it. Having a front row seat to such a spectacle, to such a desperate and damaging decent, is both incredible and rather frightening.

I’m excited. I’m so very excited. Scared? Yes, nervous? Yes. Just because I’m moving this way I don’t feel like I can’t still be that lighthouse. Just because I am moving forward doesn’t mean deep down I don’t still feel that if the pieces fall in place correctly that reconciliation isn’t possible. As I said I won’t be filing for divorce. We have to wait here for that. This is all just legal separation agreements and child custody arrangements and splitting our financials for now. It still is a big step away from each other but just maybe H needs to move away from me completely to see what he once had and lost.

Well said.

And yes, you can be the lighthouse. For a lighthouse just is. It shines. It matters not if the ship follows or not, we still shine. We still are ourselves.

…more clarity. Less about me and how I feel and more about what’s best for the kids and me, what’s best for my future and what I deserve. And maybe it’s what’s best for H.

Agreed.

Hopefully one day in the next year or two I can be a Vet and help whoever has gone through this.

My dear, you have much hard-earned wisdom, and are already helping others in your postings and in reaching out to them. I’ve no doubt that on your journey forward things will just become better and better.

And thank you for the acknowledgement and kind words.

D