Card you are so far ahead of so many especially so early in the piece. Seriously you’re doing awesome. Gosh I was absolutely breaking every rule under the Sun. I think you handled that well.
One of the few perks of going through this twice in one lifetime haha
I was a disaster the first time. Pleaded, begged, cried in her apartment as I was leaving. I get it. I was dragged kicking and screaming into DB by the people here, and I cant thank them enough.
Originally Posted by Pattnee
I would just also say I know she blames your mother as a reason to leave, I don’t think that’s the real reason, it’s just something she can clutch to and validate her issues.
100% agree. I’m going to work on boundaries with my mom in the coming weeks. That will be for me and my kids. If it’s also for the benefit of a future R with W, that is a bonus. As for the real issues for W, I’m sure I know some of them, and I’m sure there are some that would surprise me. I’ll learn them if she’s ever ready to share, and that’s if she can figure out what they are.
Originally Posted by Pattnee
She needs to find her way out of this. She really needs professional help which is why it’s good you’re at counselling but maybe she needs her own sessions too.
I’m not expecting she’ll want to schedule another joint session after tomorrow, based on her words this week. We’ll see. But she is seeing her own counselor, and is working to find a permanent one (not limited by my work’s EAP). I start counseling for myself next week, and I’m working with XW to get a counselor for D11. S1 is having the time of his life everyday, so he’s good atm haha
Thank you for all of the thoughts and kind words. I will keep following your journey, too.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
