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My only child, I prefer quality and quantity. I now only get the option for one.

Correct so make it count. Get all your mundane stuff done when he is with mom and have serious quality time together when you have him.

My W says the same thing; "you'll see, he'll be happier than ever once we're divorced!" When I asked her to show me one study or statistic that backs up that assertion she ghosts until the next conversation. Maybe you can provide one for me (obviously barring physical abuse, constant arguing, et)

I can't say he will be happier when your divorced. What I can say is that if he has two happy parents that love and adore him that will be enough and a lot more than most children have.

Never said I live like a king, but 2 salaries are typically able to afford more house/items than one. Add in the 4% interest rate hike that'll I'll be facing on a new mortgage, and it's a significant downgrade. Perhaps I'll get lucky and be able to find a nice house in the few weeks it takes our house to sell, avoiding moving back in w/ parents, a hotel, etc.

I was just talking to my friend the other weekend. He hasn't had sex with his wife in 6 years and there is no love loss between the two of them. He doesn't want to give up his current home and retirement so he is staying because he says she doesn't deserve half of his stuff. He is going to cut off his nose to spite his face. That life sounds horrible to me.

I have no interest in being friends with someone that made a decision like this on her own, with little regard to me, our child, our families, etc.

This will likely change at some point down the road.

I have no idea if her unhappiness is the only reason. I'll probably never know the whole truth, and that's ok.

You are never going to receive an answer that will be acceptable to you because you don't want this to happen.

Totally agree with that, but it's going to take time.

There is no timeline on these things. For some it comes quick and for others they can never move forward.