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Because I'm going from seeing my son literally every day of his life to essentially 6 months a year.

When it comes to children it is definitely quality not quantity

I'm watching my son have his entire world upended.

What if I tell you he will be happier living with two happy separated parents?

I'm going from a $330,000 home to an apartment or dump (after likely moving back with my parents for a while).

I don't understand how you went from being to live like a king to moving in with your parents when you pay no alimony or child support?

I'm losing half of the possessions we've acquired the last 15 years.

You acquire more possessions the next 15 years of your life.

And I"m losing the person I've spent 20 years with, only to start over again in every aspect of life at age 50.

You don't have to lose her if you choose not to. Sounds like she is willing to be friends.

Why? Because she's 'unhappy' and wants to see what's behind 'door #3'.

Are you sure that is all that is to it? Why do you think she is unhappy?

Yes, I'm bitter

Be better not bitter. This to shall pass. Up to you how long it takes.

My only child, I prefer quality and quantity. I now only get the option for one.

My W says the same thing; "you'll see, he'll be happier than ever once we're divorced!" When I asked her to show me one study or statistic that backs up that assertion she ghosts until the next conversation. Maybe you can provide one for me (obviously barring physical abuse, constant arguing, et)

Never said I live like a king, but 2 salaries are typically able to afford more house/items than one. Add in the 4% interest rate hike that'll I'll be facing on a new mortgage, and it's a significant downgrade. Perhaps I'll get lucky and be able to find a nice house in the few weeks it takes our house to sell, avoiding moving back in w/ parents, a hotel, etc.

True on possessions. Honestly I've never been concerned about 'stuff'. And honestly, I should have more money to spend on me than I ever did while married.

I have no interest in being friends with someone that made a decision like this on her own, with little regard to me, our child, our families, etc.

I have no idea if her unhappiness is the only reason. I'll probably never know the whole truth, and that's ok.

Totally agree with that, but it's going to take time.