It’s hard isn’t it Card, the emotions, just wanting to know every second what they are thinking or feeling, wanting to know if they are hurting too. I know it’s early days so I know what that was like, reaching out wanting to know sending pics of yourself with the kids to show “ hey look what you’re missing etc” I learnt pretty quickly they don’t really care. I even didn’t send H pics or videos recently of our daughters stage final competition where she qualified to go to the national championships and he didn’t even ask to see them or anything. I felt so bad for D14( although she didn’t know) but that’s how messed up they are in their own head.
I would say give her a really wide berth at the moment. Give her all that space she wants. Keep the conversations to just around the kids, don’t ask how she is, let her ask or offer up her feelings. If she asks you keep it brief and don’t give alot away( I wouldn’t even bother asking her back how she is but that’s just me and where I am now I broke all the rules early on) This is all still R talk and definitely off limits in DB. Read sandis rules. I broke so many… repeatedly. You need to start doing a 180 and treat her like an acquaintance and let her ride her roller coaster alone. It’s hard. It’s so incredibly incredibly hard, but turn your focus inward on yourself now and start focusing on you.
M:41 H:48 T:20. M:16.5 BD: 15/12/22 -moved out 17/3/2023
