As hard as this is, and as much as I hate losing my family, I have to consider myself extremely lucky. As a man, I'm getting 50/50 custody, no child support, no spousal support, and hopefully a little more than equal share of assets. I am in the extreme minority, as the overwhelming majority of men have their lives destroyed from a D. There is no way in hell I'm ever risking that again.
I've also come to realize that, as much as I greatly preferred being married over being single, there's no real upside to doing it again. I'm too old to have/want any more kids, so companionship, partnership, etc can all be achieved without government getting involved.
Please understand, I absolutely support and encourage everyone here to do whatever it takes to save their marriage. Especially when children are involved. But I would advise men to think long and hard about what they're committing too when tying the knot, and realize what they stand to lose when things almost inevitably go south
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
