I walked away from your posts because it was too frustrating to see someone continually make weak decisions and find every excuse under the sun to justify ignoring advice here.
Then about 4-6 weeks ago I got sucked into re-engaging because I thought you were actually making some progress.
Fool on me.
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I replied …. and asked what she needed.
You need to reframe this to what actually happened:
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I positively reinforced to my mentally ill ex that I’ll continue to be her whipping boy and give her the green light to perpetually treat me like sh**.
You know what you have to do, you’re just never going to do it. Saving your marriage or at least healing from the inevitable divorce requires you to show some backbone.
DNJ would have to be the most compassionate and patient and empathetic person here, and even he’s begging you harden up.
