A busy weekend. Son and daughter-in-law had a 1st year wedding anniversary celebration at my house and yard. I hosted the party as their house is not finished being built yet.
Both immediate families’ attended (those that are close by). Parents, grandparents, siblings, and significant others (sans XW/Mom, she was not invited). As well as my best friend and his wife (she’s also best friend ). All together 18 people.
What a fun time! Lots of food. Visiting. Laughing. Oh my, so much laughing!
When night fell upon the day and the sky turned dark, I brought out my telescope. Saturn rose up from beneath the eastern horizon and climbed above the treetops. We all took turns looking at the gorgeous planet. There were many oohs and aahs at what is one of the 10 out of 10 things to experience in star gazing, especially that first time. And for most of the in-laws that was their first time ever directly seeing such a thing. It’s magical seeing actual “live” photons.
Six people stayed the night, so the next day was a nice big breakfast for the seven of us. Although, the night before none of us thought we’d ever eat again. Lol. They all headed home around lunch time, aside from S21, he remained until Monday. He and I watched a bunch of movies, and found room for some more of the left over snacks and goodies from the potluck.
I had an eye appointment this morning and we said goodbye Sunday night; he could sleep in as long as he wants, and I’ll just go to my appointment in the morning. There was a pile of dishes when I left, and surprise, they were all done when I returned.
Over the weekend, I had quite a few of the kids help out with dishes and clean up, all unprompted. It’s really heartwarming to receive such favour without asking. And it’s such a far thing from the telling a teen to help out. Haha. They are really good adults and people.
Their lives could have taking such a different turn. I’ve been blessed that they’ve emerged better, not bitter, from the wreckage of six years ago.
For anyone hurting or new or seeking some kind of assurance - DB works! And far far beyond what you first desperately wish for.
Talk with you kids. Open, honest, age appropriate. God knows there are some difficult conversations. Their trust is shaken, they are hurt, and you need to bridge whatever gap there is. Gentle steering. Love. Understanding. Compassion. Empathy. Live in the light. Lead. Be their living example. They will follow.
Wherever you are along your journey, have faith.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
). All together 18 people.
