I’m back :(

[Pattnee5]

So glad you feel less lonely too. What about hobbies? Things you can do at home to GAL and occupy yourself( please don’t video game or drink because that’s my H issue and that’s not constructive at all)
I have started to enjoy having a bath, or watching movies with D14 ( the notebook the other night her request), board games. You may find solo things and hobbies you may like? Building things? Painting? Puzzles? Social is good I invite people over but I know you don’t have anyone around. Don’t be scared to reach out to old friends and chat? Maybe look into support groups for this that maybe have virtual meetings? Anything that stops you sitting around and wallowing in your thoughts and distracts you is a success in my eyes.
MS is a horrible disease and W is most likely petrified and pushing away people in fear of not dragging them down with her. Maybe she feels she doesn’t want to ruin your life? There would be more underlying factors and issues. People handle medical crisis and issues very differently. Withdrawing is common for many. I really feel for your wife she must be also struggling with the idea that she can’t be a good mother to your son as she progresses or maybe even questioning her mortality and how long she will get to see when do things
It really is horrible.

In regard to what to tell your D11 for now I would just tell her she’s having a bit of a hard time and having some space. I don’t think you need to bring her into all the emotional side of things. The less they know for now the better. Until you both have a more solid idea of what’s going on at least. She will click on, kids are smart and know more than you think. It’s also ok for her to see you sad or cry. Emotions are so healthy and kids need to understand it’s ok to cry. My kids often saw me teary in the early days and I would just say “ I just miss dad and am sad and it’s ok to cry when we are sad or miss someone” .Mind you it’s only if they saw me I always made sure to try and hide it as best as I could but I remember those early days were very hard.

Sun I’m so sorry to hear about your wife too. I don’t know if age matters. Maybe it does. H is 49 I am 41. I’ve never thought about the age difference even though he looks older than me. I always saw us as equals. He did used to say he was jealous of me but I think that’s just him and he’s always jealous of everyone. I was prepared to grow old with him even though he would age and have more issues sooner than me. age is Just a number but in a MLc they certainly start to question their mortality and their life and everything they think they miss