Thank you, Pattnee. I wouldn’t hesitate to pick W over mom. In hindsight I should have set more boundaries and distanced ourselves from her more. Although the problems existed long before we moved to her street.
I also think there are more underlying issues. Hopefully she gets to the bottom of them for her sake. I think some are in our relationship, but I know there’s more. She went to Europe to visit her best friend twice this year. Gone for a total of 5 weeks with a 1yo at home and she never acted like she missed either one of us. I picked up on it and asked about it a few times. Finally a few weeks ago, after she’d had a couple drinks, she opened up and said she “didn’t feel any emotional connection to anything”. Said she felt like she could have not come back and didnt feel like she would have missed anyone, including S1. That was deeply troubling, and she even admitted it was. That’s when we started counseling. I’m not an expert but I don’t get the impression that it’s common for a WAW to also lose a connection to their child?
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Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
