Thank you everyone, its getting easier but still work in progress. I've taken a while to answer just because I'm really busy at the minute. Doing lots of GAL & loving my life. I have so many people compliment me on how I'm looking appearance wise but also that I look so much happier.
DnJ, your post made me think & have a bit of reflection time
Originally Posted by DnJ
Are you are truly done, or more indifferent? Personally, I find there is always some wee hope flickering away. It’s up to one if they choose to fan the flames or pat them out.
Remember, hope is timeless. It is not an expectation. It may even never come to pass. Yet it can persist.
You know I'm a big fan of the time theory & this has been one of my mantras the whole way through. I am of the opinion never say never & I'm also a big believer in fate. Time has allowed me to reflect on my marriage & it hasn't been right for a very long time. There has been a lot of resentment on both our parts. I tried to discuss this, H went for the avoidance by drinking strategy. Ultimately, this has led to years where, in hindsight, I think I've been gaslighted into staying at home, not going out & feeling pretty worthless as a person. My GAL activity has challenged these thoughts & I feel like me again. I feel lighter, happy & independent. Maybe we would get back together but H has so much work to do on himself & I see no signs of any of this at the minute. He's just trying to rush back to anyone who can provide stability for him. I no longer want to be that person. I want an equal partner, not someone who I need to look after. So in answer to your question, it's not an absolute no but it is a no for the present time & we'll see what life brings.
Pattnee, Sun & Rock - thank you for your kind words. This forum is and has been completely inspirational. The advise is spot on with the right mix of challenging & supportive. It feels great to get a positive acknowledgement from you all. Thank you!
Kind18 -
Originally Posted by kind18
And my personal thanks to you MA - you’ve absolutely made my day! Also vindicates the vets who hang around here and offer their time and effort to see kit making a difference when people really heed the advice and knuckle down with their DBing.
You and DnJ have been so incredibly supportive throughout this journey. You've felt like a bit of a tag team for me & I would log on desperate to hear your thoughts and advice. You will never know what a differen e you have made to this girls life & I cannot thank you enough. I'm sure it's not over and certainly H is currently going all guns blazing trying to creep back into our lives so it feels I'll be seeking more advice in the future. For now though, I'm happy, content and enjoying life, which is largely down to following the advice on here.
