Newbie Here

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I don't take the bait and employ my DBing practices.... ....without saying a word and starting heading out of the room.

These are attractive behaviors. Keep adding to your attractive behaviors. Keep drop ones that are not attractive.

I tell her I am standing for the marriage and if she wants a divorce, then she needs to proceed because I'm standing for this marriage

Only say (important) things once. I f she questions you on this again, look her in the eyes, hold contact, tilt you head, and in your mind, say this really slowly "I have already told you I am standing for our marriage" wait for her to break eye contact first.

She storms off to bed

Glad you didn't follow...She is attempting to manipulate you.

About 5 minutes later she initiates sex. My W is super attractive and I am attracted to her so I don't turn it down.

Put this in your good memory vault. Do not initiate sex, let her do the pursuing. Between encounters, do your research and learn some new bedroom behaviors. You want her pleasantly surprised each time.

I guess there is progress there and I'm not trying to read too much into it.

Baby steps. Focus more on how you are behaving during the interactions and not asmuch on her behavior. Enjoy every interaction no matter what emotional state she is in. BE the safe one for her to express her emotions while you are the emotional rock.

She even held my hand at one point in the middle of the night that night. She hasn't done that in a very long time.

always be the first to break contact. Making and breaking contact, increasing the sexual tension, are good skills to have.

I am so confused.

YUP. normal.


It has been awhile since I read the art of seduction, but I believe it has great information on ways to behave when interacting with WAS.

Have a great, amazing weekend (no matter how W is feeling).

All excellent advice. R2C is right on the money 💯💯💯