S17 goes to college next week. W and I will be taking him up and helping him move in. We relate well when dealing with kids or talking about day to day things. Outside of that, there is little discussion. We basically treat each other like the people behind the counter at a store, or the librarian behind a desk. Neither of us brings up anything R related, and frankly I like it that way since I don't expect any positivity on her end.
W has recovered enough from her surgery that she's starting to work back into her side hustle some evenings. So back to several nights a week when she's not home and "Let's order dinner from somewhere" or "Get me a hamburger and I'll see you later."
She hasn't brought up the pending D for a while, but I suspect that's because she is busy with work and preparing to get our son to college. I am working on getting as much of my financial statement done as I can. I get weekly messages from my lawyer asking, "How's it going?"
The boys are great, and a big source of my happiness and gratification. Took S13 to a late night movie, which is something he enjoyed, and I suggested that this could be something special we could continue to do in the future.
I continue to pursue fun things for myself and to clean out and pack up my basement room. My daily thoughts are now mostly preoccupied with my future and what I want out of the rest of my life. The uncertainty used to alarm me, but now I'm more intrigued by it. I feel pretty good about myself and that W's negative attitude about our marriage was just weighing me down. Let her deal with it; I need to be rid of it.
Me 59 W 47 T 26 M 23 S18, S14 BD May 2023 D filed June 2023 OM1 confirmed: December 2023 OM2 confirmed: October 2023
