Newbie Here

[Pattnee5]

You know what Keyser I was stuck in this loop with H for a good month I reckon. Normalness, followed by acting like his old self, then WHAM out of nowhere “trigger” spiral into hurtful words, sook, retreat.
( although no R talks on his behalf and no real saying he wanted to get back together yet other than “give me time and thanks for being patient “)

My H was triggered randomly, could be something I did or said, mostly was in conjunction with alcohol but not always, could even just be a bad day at his work put him in a mood and off he goes at his local punching bag ( me). Sometimes it was even something so silly as something I said while I made dinner and he had a bomb go off. I don’t think there is a specific timeframe but honestly for me I now know that H will not come out of it and these episodes won’t stop until he actually seeks professional help to get to the root of his problems and issues and triggers😞. Unless that happens I think it’s safe to say they will be very volatile