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[Pattnee5]

I think what happens when all this goes down is us LBS go into overdrive and start to try to over function to try and appease our MLC spouse. All that did for me is burn me out and make me bitter that H sat back and basically wiped his hands of all parenting responsibilities. I think we need to remember they too are parents and have responsibilities and sometimes we need to set those boundaries. I think she’s just trying to get you to be the bad guy
With the kids. If you want to instill those rules with your kids in your house then do it I say, but not because W told you but because you aren’t a darn workhorse and you don’t want to burn out. It’s hard when you still live together.It sounds like she just doesn’t want to be the bad guy because she already knows she’s got so many strikes against her name. I would make her take responsibility for telling the kids about lifting their game seeing as it’s her issue. I am not too sure how to say it in a DB way that validates her but also makes her step up too to her responsibilities. Hopefully one the experts on here would have a better phrase. I’m not too sure why she’s interfering with your system. If you choose to spoil them and it doesn’t bother you then that’s on you. I still do the same for my kids but days I am drowning in errands and chores and need help I just ask the kids to step up and they do with usually no questions asked