Probably a cafe racer not too big. Used in good shape that I can take care of. I’d like to get it now and I have been looking but I have a few other priorities to take care of so it might be realistically next spring.
Sent D off to camp this morning where she will be leading teen girls. She is a strong, resilient, beautiful young woman and I’m very proud of her. So it’s S and I. We are doing very well. Some extended family are in town so lots of family fun planned. I will carve out my GAL time. Dancing tonight, kayaking tomorrow. Enjoying my friend group. Healthy social and fun. Wearing my wedding ring is a helpful reminder of my reality. At dances some people have asked about my wife. I don’t mention much (they are not in my close circle of trust). I just say, “this is for me. I have finally decided to learn to dance.” Have done some social things outside of dance with mixed small groups. Not dates. Going to a birthday party next weekend from that group.
Enjoying some steaks with decent red wine in my price range recently off the grill just for me in the evening. I love good food and I’m getting such satisfaction from cooking. Been moderating my red meat for health but nothing quite like it.
Have had very encouraging dr appts recently that confirm the health progress I’ve been making and inspire me to take it further.
Definitely thinking of how much I would enjoy a bike for the rest of this summer.
What can you do now that would pull you out of your comfort zone? I’m glad you found dancing and are enjoying it, but let’s amp it up.
Can you buy a $200 beater bike to start working on to turn into a cafe racer?
Can I ask a quick question? Have you ever seen Risky Business with Tom Cruise? There’s a line in it that says “Sometimes you just gotta say WTF and make your move”….I take that as sometimes you can’t analyze every aspect of a situation before you make a decision, sometimes you just gotta go for it.
I’m not talking about your marriage but I am talking about you. I think you are taking the smallest of steps, but the real reason I push so hard rock is you can’t save your marriage without saving yourself.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
I have been thinking about this statement since you posted it. I agree with Joseph. 6 months out is not where you should be focusing your changes. Today, tomorrow, and this week.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Ok guys a sense of calm this morning and yes I’m going to talk to my friend who has a bike and who sells cars and I’m going to move this timeline up. This is not a reaction or anything except something I want for who I want to be.
Having a great week camping with youngest S and small group of good friends. Lots of sun, sand, waves and fresh air and lots of really great food. Good getaway.
