Yes, often an interrupted crisis will resume and likely be worse. That’s worse most of the time, not all the times.
H resumed his journey, overtly, at the start of this year. Of course, he likely was falling/returning into his crisis for months before that. Couple this past year with his past 2 1/2 years, and that’s a fair bit of replay.
It is interesting that H is significantly calmer than ten years ago. I think a decade further down life’s road, a shoulder injury, retirement, not being able to continue working in his field, and such; have simultaneously brought back his crisis and kind of tired him.
MLCers come in various types and energy levels. A high energy MLCer burns the candle at both end. My XW was a high energy vanisher, and she’d have burnt the candle at fifteen ends if possible.
Your H appears low energy. A wallower. Remember, in a crisis depression is ever present, and a wallower broods a fair bit. I’d also place H as off-and-on type. Small bits of contact here and there. Mostly consistent contact, just in bits.
Off-and-on types, as well as Vanisher, do not behave like the more typical MLCer, the boomerang type. The less interaction is advantageous for detachment, yet that same lack of information can lead to panic and doubts if this is even MLC.
You are doing the right things, not asking him questions, not pressuring him, no relationship talks, and so on. All excellent things to allow H to traverse his path at his speed.
Be patience and let the future unfurl as it will.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
